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I've been dating my boyfriend for about 7 months and he is in the Army (well, Army ROTC until he graduates college after this upcoming year). I've really come to realize how different a military relationship is compared to I guess a regular relationship.. but I was wondering why it seems as though these relationships seem to accelerate faster than "normal" ones? I feel like young adults in the military (I'm talking early 20 to mid 20's) are making the decision to get married sooner rather than later.. and I was wondering, should I be considering marriage so early?
AnonymousI firmly believe no time is too early for marriage (of legal age, of course). Everyone is different and I know just how it feels when love hits! <3 I do think that the acceleration is due to the fact that a lot of times the military will make a guy mature faster than civilian life. There’s nothing wrong with considering marriage with someone you love! Now, my husband and a lot of our other friends have a couple thoughts on relationship time-lines in general:
a) Don’t get engaged for at least a year after you start dating.
b) Don’t get married for at least a year after your engagement.
He/they think that gives you enough time to really KNOW someone. I’m not saying that’s right or wrong. For some people it can work to get married after just a couple months… My husband and I were together for 3 years before we got married. One thing I will say is to wait til you’re out of school. It’s much easier, I promise, and I can say that from experience. If ya’ll are considering marriage, neither of you should feel rushed. Talk to each other and make sure it’s definitely what ya’ll want and that you’re both really ready. And of course, any other questions you have we’ll be happy to answer!!! :)
<3- Sara
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What makes a military relationship different from a regular relationship--besides the obvious, him or her being gone for a while? & how do you cope with them being so far away for so long ?
Anonymouswhat makes it different, is that yes you handle long periods of time apart. but, most civilian couples cant say that they have to be prepared to possibly(not always, never always, but it is the sad reality) lose loved ones because of deployment. A military relationship isnt easy either, you have to realize, that you come second to their job. Its the sad reality, it is most likely not like that in their heart when it comes to you, but in the real world they have to do their job first.
How to cope, stay active. done sit around moping and being sad. Its okay to have your days where you just let it all loose. but after that, pick yourself up and get out again, remember to laugh, and smile and have friends. Talk to family, try something new, just above all stay positive and dont worry yourself sick, nor let it dwell inside of you.
-Alex.
June 18, 2010 By
My boyfriend is a soldier in the United States Army. Though I’m no stranger to military men (my grandfather, father and brother were all enlisted), this is the first time I have dated a soldier. Curious as to what I was in for, and wanting some solid guidance, I went looking for advice on how to be a good Army girlfriend. From the web. Not sure how wise that was.
“I’ve seen a lot of websites that list ten things an Army girlfriend should remember and do, and some of them made great points. However, in my own time as an Army girlfriend, I’ve come upon a few revelations of my own. What follows is some humble advice on how to cope with being the significant other of soldier…”
follow her extremely helpful tips in how to handle life as a military girlfriend.
You’ve heard about long distance relationships, but how about long distance marriages? Well, that’s exactly what our friends and family members who are serving in the military are experiencing. There is no question that serving in the military takes a toll on everyone, but for those who are married or whose significant other is deployed over seas, the toll can be wearisome. The key to making your military long distance relationship last is communication.
click the link above to read more!
Elwood Humphries kisses his girlfriend, Elizabeth Fahy, at Fort Dix. Humphries was part of a group of New Jersey National Guard soldiers who returned from deployment in Iraq.
FORT DIX — After months in Iraq, nearly 400 soldiers from the New Jersey Army National Guard returned home today, marching into a crush of welcome-home hugs and tears from loved ones awaiting them for nearly six hours.
